ganked from mt_hi_l33tness
Now I know why I had so few dates in college...If you find yourself in the situations I described above, you are a Nice Guy, which, as we all know, is a synonym for “Doormat.” And as long as you are one, you will never, ever, get the Nice Girl, and you are severely compromising your ability to attract any woman. All of your efforts are wasted, and the real irony is that the Nice Girl isn't, and she's not really worth having to begin with anyway.
Explain to me exactly why the Nice Girl should get together with the Nice Guy. Because Nice Guy will treat her with respect? Ah, but you do that already, so there is no reason. The Jerk Boyfriend provides the fantastic sex and the thrill of being arrested with his stash when the cops kick in the door. The Nice Guy provides the sympathetic ear and bail money. She's got two men fulfilling different roles. The arrangement is perfect, it doesn't need fixing in her mind. Yeah, she kinda wishes that her boyfriend wouldn't share needles, making it necessary for frequent visits to a walk-in clinic for the HIV test, but what the hey? Nice Guy is always there to drive her and hold her hand, and maybe even buy dinner afterwards.
Read the whole truth on why I was such a loser
It all makes such sense now... I was an ENABLER