I seem to be hooked on the Psychology Today website
. I have read this magazine off and on throughout the years. I still have a couple of issues I saved from 1992.
In my latest discovery, I came across an article on ten inconvenient truths on human nature
. Human behavior is simply not politically correct.
1) "Men like blond bombshells (and women want to look like them)"
"... Blond hair is unique in that it changes dramatically with age. Typically, young girls with light blond hair become women with brown hair. Thus, men who prefer to mate with blond women are unconsciously attempting to mate with younger (and hence, on average, healthier and more fecund) women. It is no coincidence that blond hair evolved in Scandinavia and northern Europe, probably as an alternative means for women to advertise their youth, as their bodies were concealed under heavy clothing. ..."
I prefer redheads, myself. My romantic history with blonds has been a bit painful, so I am emotionally adverse to them. I seem to have hit the jackpot with red hair, though.
2) "Humans are naturally polygamous."
Modern society is not structured for polygyny. Modern society, particularly Western, is structured around monogamy. However, looking at the divorce rates and the number of affairs, it seems society has found work arounds to the issue of polgamy. scribe_ari
describes this behavior as serial monogamy.
3) "Most women benefit from polygyny, while most men benefit from monogamy"
"... As George Bernard Shaw puts it, "The maternal instinct leads a woman to prefer a tenth share in a first-rate man to the exclusive possession of a third-rate one." ..."
I call this the "Mick Jagger effect". Mick is one ugly guy, but because of his social status, women seek him out and he has a virtual harem. His resources make him attractive, maternally. But guys like me don't benefit since I don't have the fame, fortune, and material resources to support multiple wives which would lead the women worse off - and they instinctively know it regardless if they consciously recognize what is going on. The bigger the pie, the bigger the woman's slice, even if she has to share the pie.
I would like to wax political for a moment (while remaining politically incorrect):
"... Despite the fact that humans are naturally polygynous, most industrial societies are monogamous because men tend to be more or less equal in their resources compared with their ancestors in medieval times. (Inequality tends to increase as society advances in complexity from hunter-gatherer to advanced agrarian societies. Industrialization tends to decrease the level of inequality.) ..."
Take note of that and then think carefully about the whole "Green" and anti-globalization movements. They are anti-industrial at their hearts. Lack of industrialization means greater economic disparity. Think about the people funding these movements. They are the very wealthy Socialists and it greatly benefits them to stop further advances in industry since greater industrialization marginalizes their social status. If you really want to "spread the wealth", taxing the rich is not the way to do it - creating greater economic opportunity is.
4) "Most suicide bombers are Muslim"
"... According to the Oxford University sociologist Diego Gambetta, editor of Making Sense of Suicide Missions, a comprehensive history of this troubling yet topical phenomenon, while suicide missions are not always religiously motivated, when religion is involved, it is always Muslim. ..."
5) "Having sons reduces the likelihood of divorce"
6) "Beautiful people have more daughters"
My first-born was a girl. Does that make me beautiful? I know a certain man and woman in Bryn Gwlad that have a lot of daughters. Someone should tell them they are beautiful. But beauty is not the full story; parents low on the economic scale tend to have more daughters.
7) "... Women often say no to men. Men have had to conquer foreign lands, win battles and wars, compose symphonies, author books, write sonnets, paint cathedral ceilings, make scientific discoveries, play in rock bands, and write new computer software in order to impress women so that they will agree to have sex with them. Men have built (and destroyed) civilization in order to impress women, so that they might say yes. ..."
8) "The midlife crisis is a myth—sort of"
"... Many middle-aged men do go through midlife crises, but it's not because they are middle-aged. It's because their wives are. From the evolutionary psychological perspective, a man's midlife crisis is precipitated by his wife's imminent menopause and end of her reproductive career, and thus his renewed need to attract younger women. ... When he buys a shiny-red sports car, he's not trying to regain his youth; he's trying to attract young women to replace his menopausal wife by trumpeting his flash and cash. ..."
So it behooves wives to do what they can to keep their husbands believing they are fertile. Getting and remaining fit and some sexy lingerie would go a long way to keeping that image of youthful fecundity. UPDATE:
Guys, that fancy new sports car ain't fooling anyone. You are OLD and the ladies know it. Would you date your mother? Well, the ladies don't want to date their dad. Act your age. Be respectable.
9) "It's natural for politicians to risk everything for an affair (but only if they're male)"
"... powerful men of high status throughout human history attained very high reproductive success, leaving a large number of offspring (legitimate and otherwise), while countless poor men died mateless and childless. ..."
10) "Men sexually harass women because they are not sexist"
"... Feminists often claim that sexual harassment is "not about sex but about power;" Browne contends it is both—men using power to get sex. "To say that it is only about power makes no more sense than saying that bank robbery is only about guns, not about money." ..."
"... Abuse, intimidation, and degradation are all part of men's repertoire of tactics employed in competitive situations. In other words, men are not treating women differently from men—the definition of discrimination, under which sexual harassment legally falls—but the opposite: Men harass women precisely because they are not discriminating between men and women. ..."